Am I who I am or who 'they' say I am ?

  Gone are the days when women and their persona should be stifled. It is the year 2011 of the 21st century. Now I wish not to be biased but there is no doubt that the life of a female is beyond hard, sometimes I look at myself and think, how do you do it ? I need not list some common struggles that all women have to endure. Our biological make-up is already to our detriment and then there is society and culture. A female's very existence is restricted and curbed  by the guidelines dictated by norms, a lady should speak this way, a lady should dress this way, a lady should walk this way and the list goes on, and if you don't act the way a 'lady' should you are labelled, scank, hoe/whore, slut , sketel and which ever other term they see as fitting for the deviant act.. Oh and how could i forget the creme of the crop of derogatory terms for females: BITCH ! And hence in society some women tend to try their utmost best live up to these expectations or simply pretend to, unless they're rebels like me, who lives for ME and ME ONLY. The problem is though ladies while some of you try your best to fit the criteria of being a 'lady' you end up losing yourself. The reality is that we are all not the 'Mary mother of Jesus type' .. so stop trying so hard to fool yourselves and others.. lol I call it stifling the 'bitch' in you. The way I see it if I pretend to be something I am not in an effort to be a 'lady,' it is not me who is accepted but what I pretend to be, I just can not live like that, I love the truth and hence I refuse to live a lie. 

  Stick a pin though, *sticks several pins* ...lets point fingers back at those who point fingers at us. Firstly, you have the men who have their ideas of what a 'lady' or 'true woman' should be and anyone outside of that is labelled a bitch. (Note to such men: go eff yourselves!) Secondly, and most importantly you have us, yes us, we are our greatest critics. Women love to point fingers at other women, "watch e dutty gyal nuh, tek har  fren man," "Bun mi fi da bitch deh yuh si, a she deh wid Cheryl husband" (better believe that the person saying this may have a friend or relative who is dating or has dated a married man), "Why is she dressed like a slut" Comments such as these are commonplace. My point ladies is that we are very much guilty of causing other females to hide their true selves as they fear criticism and ostracism. I too am guilty of this. Yes we all have our standards BUT it should NEVER be the case that when someone does not match up to these standards they are automatically [insert various derogatory terms here]. Reality check, none of us are perfect. To conclude this post, here are a few notes to take, and ofcourse each note won't apply to every and anyone, so, to whom it may concern.

• Embrace who you truly are, the more we stand up for who we are and what we believe in is the more society will be forced to tolerate it.
• Stop taking the speck from your nieghbours eye when there is a log in yours.
• If a man can't accept you for who you are, tell him, "No vacancy for assholes."
• Note Well: when it comes to your employer strive to please them, unless you desire to be job-less, which I strongly doubt unless your sleeping with a man who is willing to and can foot your bills. If keeping the job means being 'lady' then be a damn lady (whatever being a lady in that particular context is).

...And most importantly be you but do so responsibly. If your actions are against the laws of the land or to the detriment of others then obviously its time for a change.

  All the best.See you next time ^.^ !